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Harmony in couple dancing

Harmony in couple dancing

The 1x1 of dance communication - criticising without arguing

No stress on the dance floor: 3 simple communication hacks

Dancing is pure joy - until there's a hitch. When a turn becomes a stumbling block or the rhythm is lost, nerves are often frayed. But how do you tell your dance partner that something isn't right without immediately starting an argument? Good communication is important in any team - and when it comes to dancing, it can save a great dance partnership from ending prematurely. We have translated the tried-and-tested classics of communication onto the dance floor for you.

The "we" message: Together instead of alone

The "we" message: Together instead of alone

The focus

Stay with the "we" to take away the accusatory character.

Practical example

Instead of "You're holding your arm too stiffly", try: "I have the feeling that we're losing the connection when we turn. Let's see how we can make it smoother."

The sandwich principle: first praise, then a solution

The sandwich principle: first praise, then a solution

The layers

Wrap the correction between two layers of praise.

Practical example

"Your body tension today is great (praise). Can we try to make the transition a little more relaxed? (correction). Then the figure will immediately look much more elegant (positive outlook)."

"Stop" as a neutral reset button

"Stop" as a neutral reset button

The effect

A brief "Stop" or "Let's reset for a moment" does not mean: "You've made a mistake", but rather: "I need some guidance for a moment".

The trick

it's like the reset button on a computer. Pause briefly, take a deep breath and start again. This prevents you from getting stuck in a faulty sequence.

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udansa quick check: The 10-second rule

Before you make a correction, dance the figure to the end twice. As a dance couple, you will often correct yourselves intuitively if you stay in the flow. This will save you 90% of unnecessary discussions on the dance floor. Still stuck after that? Then use the "we" message.

FAQ on harmonious communication as a dance couple

  1. This usually happens when the criticism feels like an attack on your skills. Take a deep breath and change your strategy: ask a question instead of making a statement. A "How does the leadership feel to you?" opens up the dialogue instead of ending it. Sometimes it also helps to postpone the topic until later, when the music is quieter and emotions have cooled down.

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