A change is not a judgment of the other person
If you want to change or end a dance partnership in Shanghai, it helps to separate the reason from your judgment of the other person. Different training goals, limited time or changes in your daily life may mean that your previous arrangement no longer works. That doesn't make the time you spent together worthless, and it doesn't have to lead to an argument.
Before the conversation, it’s worth being honest with yourself: Do you really want to stop, or would a different arrangement work? If you can train less often, you may not need to end the partnership. If you’re working toward a different goal, you can see whether you both still want the same thing. Describe the change you want as specifically as you can, so the other person can respond to it.
Try to avoid listing a long string of old grievances. A sentence like “I can no longer reliably make it to regular training sessions” describes your situation more clearly than an accusation about a lack of commitment. If you’d like to keep learning separately afterward, the considerations for choosing a dance style in Shanghai can help you sort out your own goals. The points about regular training may also be useful when making a new training arrangement. But they’re no substitute for talking directly with your current dance partner.
